1 – Comparing yourself to others
This is the first by coincidence but I genuinely believe this to be the most important habit to kick. It does nothing but make you feel even worse about yourself. One belief of comparison can spiral into a over-thinking mess which never helps, does it?
Do not be envious of what others have, instead be appreciative of what they do have. And also remember, not everything you see on social media is a true representation of real-life.
2 – Stop aiming to be perfect
First of all, there is no such thing as perfect. Second of all, perfect, if it is non-existent, then is like worrying about nothing. So there is nothing to worry about, right?
I know it is easier said than done, but normally aiming to over-achieve, yes, is understandable in theory, but being realistic is more likely to gain positive results and therefore a happier and more positive reaction.
3 – Stop existing in the past
Life will not wait for you, and it will not change no matter how much you think of it. So why would you live to spend your time thinking of your past?
Life is constantly moving and it can be hard to keep up with, but keep track of the days as they come.
What happened yesterday doesn’t matter, but it is what happens tomorrow that counts.
4 – Stop procrastinating
If you want to do something, do it. I am the queen of procrastination (even a factor of starting a blog!) but it doesn’t do anything but make you feel like you have a million and one things to do when, in fact, there are only a few and it has been left too long.
It also brings back that element of control you have in your life, and will help you feel that balance and create a better and more peaceful atmosphere away from stressing about the little stuff.
5 – Stop worrying about failure
Failure is not negative. Even though the word failure is surrounded with negative connotations, it goes hand-in-hand with winning. There has to be failure in order to understand and recognise what winning means.
Not only that, but failure is an important element of life because it teaches you to appreciate, be resilient and work hard at what you want.
As an ex-gymnast, I learnt this from a very young age and so, winning is 100x more of a gift when it happens as I know what I have put into something. The results will come, but at the right time. You are not always right – and that is ok.
Failure is good.
6 – Stop focusing on the bad
There is so much good in the world, and if you can’t see it, then you are looking in the wrong places my friend!
It is so easy to look at the negative things in life – that is mainly due to our brain being overly alert because of our natural instinct to remember the bad to protect ourselves in the future. But it doesn’t need to be this way.
Learn to control those negative thoughts. Positive thinking is a lot like a ripple effect, and the best bit is, is that you are able to train your brain to recognise the ‘silver lining’ of situations and circumstances.
Make sure that you are letting yourself see positivity and not blocking it out with negative thoughts.
7 – Stop saying Yes to everything
“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.” – Steve Jobs
I have read a few articles about Steve Jobs ethos about saying “no” more than saying yes.
I agree, because not only does it allow you to focus on more important things that are more likely to benefit you, but also it means that you are unable to be distracted.
Similarly, sometimes saying “yes”, even though the good intentions are there, is actually diminishing your chances of success because you are taking too much on and become unproductive.
Focus on important things, and enable that control back into your life. You do not need to be ‘Superman’ (or woman), you need to be and do the important things for you.
8 – Stop having excuses
The minute you make an excuse for something, you are allowing yourself to pass the responsibility elsewhere. Take responsibility for your actions and you can learn from them.
Making excuses is a bad habit and it is important not to fall victim to them, when facing up to putting yourself on the line in a situation which can be avoided with an excuse can easily shift your mindset.
By taking on the responsibility of a situation, it oozes confidence, self-esteem and sets yourself up for succeeding as you are letting yourself in for failure, letting you acknowledge, learn and appreciate them for the future.
What are your mantras for a positive life?